It’s that time of the year again, where we got to go home (this especially makes more sense to college students who are just through with pre-holiday exams that ended two days before the Big day: Christmas day ) and celebrate or just hang out with family and friends.
A few days or hours from now, some of us are going to jot down goals to achieve and to-do lists for 2017, if we already haven’t.
But here are a couple of questions for you as you reflect on that.
Are you proud of how the year turned out?
Did you achieve the goals you had pen-engraved on the pages of your diary, journal or notebook?
How many of the chores on your bucket list did you manage to strike out?
Did you even have a bucket list?
What impact did you make on the people around you?
What impact did they have on you?
We have goals.
We plan. Planning is good.
It makes our targets more feasible. It’s even recommended, in order for someone to be successful in whatever activity they pursue. But, it is not the determining factor of whether or not you actually get to achieve your goals.
For this, you actually have to break a sweat – Work!
So, the billion dollar question is why do we work? Why do we do the things we do?
What motivates us to be better? To want to achieve more?
Who motivates us?
At this point in time, I believe we cannot divorce WHY from WHO when it comes to purposes and goals.
Just like I said, purpose drives us and goals gear us toward greater things. They help us in unleashing our full potential and hidden capabilities, first mentally, then practically – when we work our way into them, with precision.
During one of my moments of solitude, I realised something. Something too obvious that we tend to ignore it :
Our resolutions fail because they lack purpose. If they don’t, then they lack passion and love. Selfless love.
With respect to passion, we do not let our dreams take root in us deep enough to allow ourselves to be motivated with a burning desire to achieve the very best at whatever cost. We have cultivated the art of dreaming but not that of passionately dreaming.
It dawned on me that solipsism, which involves self-absorption, is a killer in terms of the growth of our dreams, goals and purposes – which are inevitably tied to others around us. We get so caught up in refurbishing ourselves (which is not entirely a bad thing) that we, with time, shut out everyone’s opinions and input.
We forget that no man is an island. If we were meant to be alone we would be living in boxed windowless bungalows (I have a thing for them), where we would be self-sufficient in every capacity and we’d have no mouths, since we would be devoid of the need to communicate.
Furthermore, for us to make impact in the lives of people around us, we need to be aware of their needs. We need to embrace their views (where necessary) in the things we do, otherwise our endeavours towards success become egotistic and insignificant.
We need each other to survive. To stand. To grow. To be better. To achieve. To soar. To do so much more.
JUST THE THING FOR YOU
So, if you’ve been like me and you’ve somehow managed to successfully lose track of your goals at some point during the year, or maybe you just didn’t “feel them” anymore, don’t sweat it. Here’s a piece of advice I tell myself:
Never be afraid to start something anew; that might just be the thing for you.
So, as we reflect on this year, that was coupled with bundles of joy as well as various insurmountable challenges, let us remember to ALWAYS:
1. Dream! But don’t stop there. Dream passionately with purpose and oomph.
2. Plan! Visualize your future 10 years, 5 years, a year, 6months, a month, a week from now. It helps keep you on toes. Plus, make realistic and achievable plans and don’t be afraid to take baby steps towards them. Haba na haba hujaza kibaba.
3. Affix your plans, purposes and resolutions to people. We were not meant to walk alone or be alone. Unity is, in fact, strength. And as I say: You move alone, you move faster; you move as an assembly you move further!
4. Always reflect on the treasures of life, challenges and opportunities you’ve had. They are a blessing. After all, we only have one life to live, so we’ve just got to savour every moment, aye?
5. Love and love selflessly. If you haven’t yet, allow yourself to learn to love. To love things, to love life and to love people, even when it’s not reciprocated. Trust me it’s better than not being able to love at all..
6. Be content and grateful, for the little things in life and the people in your life – that’s what happiness is all about. Joy is found in contentment.
7. Most importantly, commit your plans unto the Lord, in all sincerity. Only He can strengthen us and keep us, moreso when we are at the verge of breaking down.
This has to be intermarried with all other things pertaining to our lives. He takes pleasure in blessing us and seeing us joyful, for the glory and honour of His Name.
Finally, have a beautiful end of year and a happy new year to you as your dive and explore the year that shall be.
Remember, you have the power to make life turn out just beautifully, but it’ll cost you – time and effort 🙂
Grace and Peace to you.